Sorry – please forgive me
“Bear with one another…forgive each other.” Colossians 3:13
I’m sorry I have offended you.
From my weakness, I failed. I wish to never offend you or our God again, and I will seek God’s grace for the strength I need so I may choose to love and to do good in all circumstances.
Please pray for me.
- 10 cards/11 envelopes.
- white envelopes
- Glossy full color front, matte inside
- 5″ x 7″
Part of growing in holiness is turning to God for the courage to make our wrongs right. How many times have we ruined another’s reputation, caused pain and havoc in our families and friends lives and not even tried to repair the damage we have caused, from our embarrassment, fear or refusal. Much of the time we would rather have someone live in pain or have others thinking falsely of another, who we have bared false witness against or talked badly about, than to admit we are wrong. Growing in charity is found by loving others above ourselves–seeing that we bring peace and love to others over protecting our pride. Sadly, much of the time we offend others and neglect to go to God for grace to have the courage to even approach the person we have offended to make amends. Because of our silence, inaction and lack of love, wounds are left to fester, and others can even grow in greater pain.
Our sins not only offend God, and hurt us, but our sins harm others too. We are called to “love our neighbor (Matthew 22:39),” not harm them. From sinning greatly against one another, to hurting the feelings of others, to even causing misunderstandings (from our neglect or lack of understanding of other’s needs), we need to apologize. “Be reconciled to your brother or sister” (Matthew 5:24).
However, if we have angered someone by bringing them “godly guilt,” from proclaiming the truth with love, after carefully examining our conscience to make sure that no sin was committed along with delivering the truth, then no apology should be made. It would be wise to never apologize for giving someone a gift from God (godly guilt), even if this gift causes pain to someone’s heart. How can we be sorry someone is blessed to receive a gift from God? Of course we should still try to make peace, but not at the expense of lying. For “godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation” (2 Corinthians 7:10), that is, if their heart can be soften into seeing and admitting their error. Therefore make sure we “pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44) so God can work through our prayers and then “rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you” (Matthew 5:22).
When we do sin against another, this apology that we need to give doesn’t need to be given to gain their approval, as we should seek the approval of our one and only God, but rather to love them, hoping to bring them peace. It will also serve to humble ourselves and grow in humility. We can hope for their forgiveness in return, but we don’t need it to be pleasing to God as God only calls us to do our best: “If it is possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all” (Romans 12:18).
“Love does no wrong to a neighbor” (Romans 13:10).
Some of us still struggle with our pride and can’t humble ourselves enough to verbally admit our wrongs to the person we have injured. If that is the case, then, until we receive grace to grow in humility, the next best thing to do is to apologize by letter/card. Sometimes the person we have offended and desire to apologize to, is now harboring anger and unforgiveness in their soul towards us. Now, from their poor hardened heart, they won’t allow us to make a verbal apology. Then the greatest good is to apologize by a letter/card. Sometimes we lack self-control and have issues of our own and lack the grace to speak lovingly because we still have not let go of pain (not properly forgiven) offenses to us and can’t apologize without sinning further, then apologizing with a letter/card would be best as well. Please make sure the devil doesn’t make this wonderful chance to show our true love for our neighbor, become another means to justify our sins, as a true apology should be a confession of our guilt and desire to amend. Our apology must be sincere as we strive to sin no more and love God through our neighbor.
When we don’t turn to God to gain courage and humble ourselves enough to correct our wrongs or show our sorrow for our injury towards our neighbor, we can fuel our neighbors anger towards us causing them to continue to dwell in grievous sin. How many are still walking around angry largely because we refuse to apologize? Sadly, much of the time, our refusal to apologize is because we are seeking an apology from them, since all too often, when a grievance has occurred both parties have sinned in some way against each other? Since we are focusing on the sins of another and how we were offended, we don’t see our own sins. Much of the time our sin is that of not loving and forgiving in return.. If everyone’s pride remains too big to admit error or thinks the other’s seemingly greater crime somehow justifies our lesser offense, and we don’t seek to apologize and love in return, then we choose to dwell in the devil’s anger. All too often injury still remains because of our neglect to love how Christ has loved. Are both of our hearts hard?
“But I say to you that if you are angry with a brother or sister [another child of God], you will be liable [guilty] to judgment” (Matthew 5:22).
We don’t want to be accountable to God for such a crime and should desire to see ourselves and our neighbor saved and in peace. God demands that we LOVE ONE ANOTHER. Without love we are “nothing” (1 Corinthians 13:2)..certainly not with a saving faith. Therefore, we need to do all we can to encourage forgiveness and mercy with others especially with the people we have offended by our sins. Simply sitting back and watching someone brew in anger not taking action to help bring them to the light of love, can cause such a soul to loose all of God’s saving and actual grace leaving them to loose much wisdom and even salvation. God calls us to do our best to bring peace, and a card can be just what God will use to soften hearts and bring His love.